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Tuesday, May 16

当阻止不到坏事发生时,请选择支持

打从很多年前,我就一直想做近视矫正手术(lasik),
因为戴眼镜真的很不方便。
隐形眼镜又不能长时间佩戴,
真叫人懊恼。

最近,我终于鼓起勇气,
决定要做近视矫正的手术。

很多人或许会觉得我大惊小怪,
这么多人做了,都还好好的,
利多于弊,有什么好担心。

但是,毕竟是自己的眼睛,
要动手术,难免会想东想西。
手术费昂贵已不再话下,
父母还不支持,更是痛心。

我明白,父母是担心手术的风险,
我又何尝不担心呢?
眼睛是自己的,
我的担忧肯定比任何人更多。 
此时此刻,我只希望父母可以在精神上支持,
陪我进手术室。

其实,我早就知道父母肯定会反对,
本来想瞒着父母偷偷去做。
可是想了想,毕竟是一家人,
做决定应该有商有量,
至少也应该通知一声,表示尊重。

果然不出所料,
不只被爸爸坚决反对,
还说了一大堆难听的话。

一秒钟前,我后悔自己说了,
早知道就应该默默去做了才说。。
一秒钟后,我还是认为,
说出来是对的,因为你们是我的父母。 

其实,严厉的父母,不会养出听话的子女;
反而会养出很会说谎的孩子。
这句话我是非常认同的。

很多案例摆在我们眼前。
例如:女儿未婚怀孕,不敢告诉父母,
偷偷堕胎,结果造成永久不孕。
或者离家出走,跟男友生下孩子,挨穷挨饿,
从此跟娘家断绝亲子关系,父母就少了个女儿。

换个方式,如果跟父母商量了,挨骂心痛是肯定的,
至少陪女儿进产房,陪她度过这段艰难的日子,
过些时日还多了一个乖孙。

外人的白眼是少不了,
但是亲人的白眼,只会心如刀割。
当坏事阻止不了时,
选择接受,陪同承担,这才是家人。


例如:发现儿子是同性恋,
闹起家庭革命,最后儿子从天台一跃而下,
从此少了个儿子。

换个方式,试着接纳,
说不定还会多了个儿子孝敬老人家。
异性恋也未必会传宗接代,
同性恋也可以幸福美满。

虽说父母是前半辈子陪伴我们最多的人。
但是,后半辈子陪伴我们的人是伴侣啊!
伴侣是男是女,根本不重要,
因为有爱胜过一切。
爱是接纳,不是众叛亲离。


 
我希望...
我真的真的希望...
当父母不认同孩子做的事或决定时,
反而应该支持和守候他们,
而不是选择放弃或离开他们。

 一家人就不应该让任何一位家庭成员感到孤单,
自己是在是孤军作战的。
因为孩子在当下下定决心时,
需要比你更多的勇气和坚持。



Thursday, March 2

這不叫說話很直,你其實很白目

對於不太熟悉的人,我總是希望把話說得比較圓滑,
但卻因為這樣常被說我說話太客套,好像假假的。
*無奈*

畢竟對於不太熟悉的人,我真不敢亂開玩笑,
擔心尺度沒有拿捏好,留下不好的印象,還傷了和氣。

可是有些人不管你跟他熟或不熟,
說話總是頂心頂肺,真叫人不敢恭維。
請不要把自己的的這種行為說成講話很直,
其實你真的很白目。

我曾經參考過這個方法。
說話前,先想想:-
1. 你說的話是對的嗎?有根據的嗎?
2. 對方听到你的這番話會高興嗎?
3. 若是別人這樣對你說,你會高興嗎?
如果上述答案皆“是”,那麼就說暢快地說出來吧!

Monday, January 23

Brush Lettering Workshop [22/01/2017]

非常期待的這一天終於到了! 
這是我一直非常想做的事情。 

*揭曉*

佈置得非常漂亮的課室

主辦單位是The Craft Crowd



The Craft Crowd為每位學員都準備了一套繪畫用具(已包括在學費里)
根本無需自備畫具 ,太貼心了。

還有各自的名牌,是不是很漂亮?

經過半天的時間,這就是我的作品啦!

還可以彩繪在環保袋上,
這個也包括在課程裡面,也可以帶回家哦!

展示大家的作品

用中華書法墨汁也同樣可以寫哦!
不同的感覺

導師還貼心地為飢腸轆轆的我們準備食物哦!


和閨蜜一起做喜歡的事,
是一件幸福的事。

中間這位就是我們的老師啦!
是不是很年輕很漂亮?
她真的很有才華,隨便兩筆就妙筆生花啦!

地點是在16, Telawi 9, Bangsar, Kuala Lumpur

報名費:一人收費RM220,
兩人同行只需RM200per person

 分享心得
 “Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time.”
~THOMAS MERTON~



Thursday, December 8

2017新年願望

2016即將步入尾聲,
立下的新年願望也沒實現幾個。
嗚嗚嗚...

舊的不去,新的不來,
倒不如提起勁兒,
立下2017的新年願望。

1. 瘦身
(目標55kg)

2. 至少出國旅行1次
(地點不拘)

3. 少抱怨,散發正能量
(把悲觀的自己忘掉)

4. 學會果斷拒絕別人
(沒有人可以勉強自己,對自己好一點就要勇敢say NO!)

5. 清淡飲食
(戒快餐+戒汽水)

6. 盡情去做自己想做的東西 
(做肥皂+學游泳+學手藝...)

7. 多喝水+肌膚管理
(世上沒有醜女人,只有懶女人)

8. 做近視眼雷射手術
(戴隱形眼鏡太麻煩了,我不想做四眼天雞,拜託!)

9. 在房間拉筋做伸展運動
(每晚至少15分鐘,完成後才洗澡)

10. 註冊結婚
(等不及啦!不想當高齡產婦!)

 
加油!加油!加油!

Sunday, June 5

操心

有一天, 
我發現爸媽老了, 
我應該要獨立了。 

於是,我把平時爸爸會幫我打點的東西, 
都自己打點好了。 
爸爸習慣當我們的司機,
 我們卻都會駕車了,
 哪裡都可以靠自己去了, 
爸爸反而不習慣了。 

我們不想讓爸媽操心, 
想自己完成更多事情,
結果他們更操心了。 

老話一句,
 在爸媽眼中, 
孩子永遠都是孩子。 

Saturday, November 8

【自爱】>【被爱】

今晚来到自己的部落格,无意间浏览回几年前的自己写过帖子,竟然不会觉得幼稚或害臊。毕竟都是自己亲身经历过的事情,是一段属于自己过去的回忆。
无论是好是坏,许多回忆顿时涌上心头。

看着看着我发现,自己现在的想法竟然跟以前的没有太大的不同。
生气讨厌的事,依旧讨厌,不曾放下过;美丽开心的事,依旧能让嘴角不自觉上扬。
往坏的方面想,可以说自己依然执着、固执;往好的方面想,代表自己依然坚持。

我真的很爱我自己,不喜欢让自己受伤、尽量让自己心情保持愉悦。

记得我曾经跟不少人说过这句话:“爱人之前要先学会爱自己,不然你连爱一个人的权利都没有。连自己都照顾保护不了,你要怎么去保护你爱的人呢?”

 

谢谢在我生命中的每个过客,让我学会了“自爱”,然后“去爱”,最后“被爱”。

Tuesday, October 14

满意现状

我非常满意目前的生活模式。

每天早上七点起床,梳洗后,
享受个美好的早餐。
驾个十五分钟的车程 (完全没有塞车),
即可抵达公司门口。
P/S:大多数的都市人每天都得在车龙中挤啊塞啊,
根本没有时间吃早餐。

虽然公司规模不大,
胜在老板同事和蔼可亲,
都很愿意指导还是菜缴付泊车费,
拥有自己的办公室,
办公室明亮宽敞,硬体设备齐全,
工作系统简易摩登 ,没得弹。
午餐时间,身处在美食天堂的Bandar Mahkota Cheras,
根本不会没有食欲。
一转眼就到了下班时间。
下班时间准时,无需加班,
这是多少同行羡慕的工作啊!

下班回家,和家人享用晚餐,
玩玩脸书,追追香港连续剧,
看看 Running Man, 看看《爸爸,去哪儿》,
又哭又笑,好痛快。

星期六早上,和家人用个早餐,
下午,跟我的小羊儿约会,
看看电影,牵牵手儿,
逛逛书局和精品店,最幸福了。

星期天早上,和妹子吃个早餐,
到音乐学院教教琴。
既能把苦练十年的钢琴传给下一代,
又能练练琴,不让自己的琴艺生熟,
最重要是能赚点零用钱,何乐而不为呢?

律师楼的薪水加上钢琴课的外快,
不多不少,还够让我缴付车贷 ,
这样的生活还能嫌吗?


感恩我现在所拥有的一切,
感恩啊~

Friday, September 5

Call to The Bar - 5th Sept 2014

3 years LLB
+
1 year CLP
+
9 months Pupillage
=
My path to be a lawyer

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Today is my turn to be called to the bar and my Long Call speech as follow:-


Dengan izin Yang Arif,

Saya, Siva Kumar Kanagasabai, peguam yang mewakili Pempetisyen, Tan Lai Yee yang hadir pada pagi ini.

Yang Arif, hari ini telah ditetapkan untuk petisyen penerimaan masuk Pempetisyen. Saya dengan rendah diri memohon kebenaran Mahkamah yang Mulia ini untuk berhujah dalam Bahasa Inggeris.

If it pleases My Lady, it gives me great honour to introduce the Petitioner, TAN LAI YEE.

My Lady,

The Petitioner who hails from Kuala Lumpur is the eldest child of 3 children born to Mr. Tan Teck Wee and Madam Ho Hong Ling, who are present in court today. The Petitioner received her primary education at SJK(C) Naam Kheung and her secondary education at SMK Cochrane. She later read law at Brickfields Asia College and completed her degree under the UK Degree Transfer Programme at the University of Aberystwyth graduating in 2012 with a First Class Honours.

Upon her return to Kuala Lumpur, she obtained her Certificate in Legal Practice in 2013 under a full scholarship awarded by Brickfields Asia College. Thus, she came to law and commenced pupilage under the guidance of my learned friend, Ms. Goh Siu Lin of Messrs. Shook Lin & Bok. The Petitioner has had a fruitful and challenging pupillage period with Messrs Shook Lin and Bok.

Spikes and thorns laid this path, tears and sweats must be shed to come this far, yet she does not retract and still enjoys the journey ahead. The reason being that the Petitioner just loves law. And today this union would unleash her to wield the sword of justice, for those who are in need and to shield those who are being persecuted. Today is symbolic and she is thrilled at the prospect of a career in law, drawing her inspiration from Steve Jobs:

 “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.”

On this special day, the Petitioner would like to express her gratitude to the people who have been her pillars of strength and source of encouragement throughout the years.  

First of all, the Petitioner would like to honour her parents whom have nurtured her with unconditional love and guidance. She acknowledges that her dream of having an overseas education had made financial dents to their pockets. She is grateful for their financial sacrifice and their confidence in her abilities which enabled her today to release her dreams of being a lawyer. Their faith had reinforced her will to excel in all her endeavours. She would like to express her love to her younger siblings - Tan Lai Joo and Tan Keng Yi, she is appreciative of their support and understanding especially during her preparations for the Certificate of Legal Practice examinations.

The Petitioner would like to record her utmost appreciation to her pupil master, Ms. Goh Siu Lin for her patience and her willingness to share her thoughts and advice. The Petitioner also wishes to thank her seniors at Shook Lin & Bok, Mr. Dang Pek Chuan, Mr. Lim Wei Lih and Ms. Bong Ying Wei for their friendship, patience, guidance and encouragement during her pupilage.

To the Petitioner’s fellow pupils in Shook Lin & Bok, especially, Ms. Yong Jin San, a huge thank you for keeping the Petitioner sane when things got tough in the office. The Petitioner will always cherish the memorable times at work and leisure, including the good times during the futsal practices and tournament with all the SLB pupils.

The Petitioner would like to extend her gratitude to a very special person, Mr. Yeoh Choun Jin, who shares her every moment of ups and down, joy and victory. At the same time, she also wishes to thank all her close friends, Ms. Chuah Xiao Fen, Ms. Phin Han Yin, Mr. Teo Kui Cheng, Ms. Ng Zhi Ying, Mr. Chia Swee Ann and those who have graced this occasion with their presence as well as those who are unable to be present here today. The Petitioner feels truly blessed to be surrounded by such true friends and thanks them for their friendship and support all these years. 

Last but not least, the Petitioner would like to thank her mover, Mr. Siva Kumar Kanagasabai for taking off time from his busy schedule to move her call.

Today marks the beginning of another journey of the Petitioner, she will strive to be a good lawyer, who serves justice and those in need and is guided by the words of the iconic Mahatma Gandhi “Be the change you want to see in this world”.

My Lady,

I verily believe that all cause papers are in order and that Petitioner is a fit and proper person to be admitted and enrolled as an Advocate & Solicitor. I also believe that my learned friends representing the relevant parties have no objections to this Petition.

Therefore, I pray that the Petitioner, Tan Lai Yee be admitted and enrolled as an Advocate & Solicitors at the High Court of Malaya.

Much obliged, My Lady. 

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Celebration after the Long Call




Thanks for all the flowers.